As I am wrapping up my last semester as a undergrad, I discovered something monumental. This has been the first whole semester where I have been single. But really, I have never been single for the entirety of a semester and I’m fairly certain that this fact is my sole regret of my college experience. I should have experienced this all much earlier, BUT, it actually couldn’t have come at a more perfect time and I couldn’t be more thankful.
This semester, I learned vital lessons that, if I had not learned them, I would not have been prepared to face my future.
Although tiresome, troubling, and torturous at times, I ultimately learned 18 lessons that I value more than any boyfriend.
- how to be alone
- how to not have a sole companion to tell my daily stories to
- how to pay attention, real attention, to my friends
- how to stop looking at my iPhone screen and look at the world and people around me
- how to use public transportation effectively–boyfriend ain’t gonna pick me up when I have a flat tire no more
- how to really be independent–no one does me favors or runs me errands anymore, it’s all me
- experimenting with different hair styles and outfits can help you shape yourself into the person you want to be
- how to accept and embrace failure without a shoulder to cry on
- how to spot bullshit
- and how to call it out as such
- going to the movies alone is liberating
- loneliness is a real emotion
- it’s ok to feel it
- and how to deal with those feelings
- how to overcome my “struggles”, chin-up, and move forward
- grace and strength are often overrated and it’s ok to have a breakdown
- no one can define you, limit you, or hold you back unless you allow them to
- AND FINALLY, self respect will always be worth more than company